Codependency is more real and common than you would think. Almost every relationship becomes codependent to an extent at certain phases. The fortunate relationships don’t allow codependency to thrive or become severe. The unfortunate relationships allow codependency to become a part of the relationship itself and it remains forever unless one of the two people involved takes some action and charts out corrective measures.
There are numerous signs of codependent behavior. If you think you are in a codependent relationship or know someone who is into one, then you should get accustomed with the following signs of codependent behavior and draw your inference.
1. A person taking responsibility for almost every action or reaction of the other person or other people is being codependent. The actions or reactions may be just or may be completely unjust, regardless of that the person in question will take the responsibility. Such is an unavoidable reality in codependency.
2. Some very common signs of codependent behavior is being anxious about others, their problems and also trying to do something to solve those problems even if they are unsolvable or the person doesn’t have the resources or ability to solve the problems. In the process, the person burdens and often overburdens himself or herself, resulting in causing mental trauma and dissatisfaction with his or her own self and life.
3. Trying to protect other people, even when they are facing the eventualities of their own choices, is a very common sign of codependent behavior. Not only would a codependent person try to salvage the entire situation but would cause considerable neglect to one’s own life, self and health in the process. At the end, the person covering for the one affected will be the most adversely affected individual in the whole process.
4. One of the most common signs of codependent behavior is the tendency to seek approval. A person who consistently seeks other people’s approval to validate oneself is suffering from codependency. This may happen in personal lives, in social circles or in the professional world. Codependency exists beyond marital bonds and family relations.
5. Some other signs of codependent behavior is neglecting one’s own interests and needs, doing more for others or in general than what is expected, trying to manipulate situations or even people’s thoughts and actions so it would suit them instead of allowing natural outflow or outcomes.