The term “loner” is often used to refer to someone who is always by themselves, but it is much more than that. Loners have no real desire to associate or be around other people. Loneliness is not the same as being a longer. The reason why these differences are important is because a loner can be lonely or a loner may be thriving in solitude. To understand the loner personality traits, one has to understand what or who a loner is.
A loner can be any person. The term is not a scientific one and it has no medical resonance. It is not a condition or a disorder. Being a loner is simply a personality trait, just as arrogance, rude, soft-spoken, kind, gentle or proud are. But loner is not just an adjective to describe a person’s attitude or character. It actually implies a person’s mind, thought process, approach towards life and lifestyle itself.
Common Loner Traits
A loner is almost always shy or a quiet person. He or she would not indulge in many conversations. He would rarely be seen with anyone and he would stay or ,at least try to stay aloof, from anything and everyone around him or her. The only thing that would draw the attention of a loner is any object or person of interest. A loner is not mentally challenged or disabled in any way. They just don’t want to partake in social activities in the same manner that others do. He or she would rather spend time in their own world doing things that they like and pondering over whatever interests them.
While the aforementioned is a very generic description of a loner, there are numerous exceptions. A loner can be kind or unkind, gentle or arrogant, humble or proud, virtuous or vicious and every other term that can be used to describe extreme characteristics of human beings, both at the positive and the negative end of the possibilities. A loner can be a scientist in the making or a potential recruit for brainwashing terrorist organizations.
Similarly, what causes a person to be a loner can also vary, which also affects personality traits. A person can be a loner because of a history of abuse. A person can also be a loner because he or she is the abuser. In these two cases, their approach towards the world and their personality may appear to be the same but their eventual exposition would be radically different.
It is a common perception that loners are unhappy, they are sad and have nothing to do or no one to love, that they are either losers or nerds, they can never be accepted by society at large and they may never end up being anyone. Quite contrary to that, loners can be very happy, extremely loved and can be more successful than otherwise normal people.
Additional Traits To Be Aware Of
In that context, here are some loner personality traits.
1. A loner can have a very joyous personality. Simply because a loner stays away from fun and frolic, doesn’t blend in with the crowds and doesn’t share a hearty laugh publicly doesn’t mean that they are depressed or unhappy. A loner can actually be the happiest person in the world, content with his or her abilities, with a nice family, working on things they like and planning their future in ways that appeal to them.
2. A loner’s personality is also an ever changing one. Since they don’t remain confined to social norms or stay loaded with commitments and constant necessity to live their lives in a certain way according to expectations, loners often take the routes less traveled and, in the process, they evolve. Wisdom is seldom attained by adhering to all the mundane frivolities in life and in the world. Wisdom is attained by thoughts, realizations, explorations, introspections and by doing what is not being done. This reality about wisdom also implies that loners are wiser. They don’t put forth a wise personality but when they speak, they can make more sense than anyone else around.
3. Moving away from the positive loner personality traits, there are many negatives as well. A loner is not intelligent by default or wise by birth. If a person is a loner because of some specific problems and doesn’t have much to be interested in or be engrossed in, then such a person will be depressed, extremely lonely and may continue to grow a cocoon of a shell around him or her to get further away from society and others. Loner personality traits that are indicative of a bruised psyche or depressed heart should be attended to with professional help.